Jealousy is an emotion, usually accompanied by negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear and anxiety about an underlying loss that has great personal value and usually involves a human relationship. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust.
Very often jealousy causes competition with someone else which causes worse stress, detaches us from our daily lives and makes it difficult for us to make decisions. So, can we channel this energy into something more productive and less destructive?
• Stop comparisons!
Each of us is unique, literally! There is no second “copy” on the planet, because our gene link is unique! So, who are we comparing ourselves to? With the person we think is better, or more successful? But if we take a closer look, we will find that even the most famous have flaws! So why focus on the surface and not the substance? And the essence is one, that we need to feel blessed with all that has been given to us. Only then will we be able to grow and set goals. When our base is stable and conscious!
• Learn from those you envy!
You do not have to have everything, but maybe you can learn from it. If you envy your friend for his success or happiness, ask him to tell you his “secret.” This can deepen your friendship, instead of leading to resentment and envy. Do you like their body? Ask them what their diet is and what exercise program they follow. Go with them and try to apply what they revealed to you. Learn the techniques of the people you envy and make them your own! This way you will maintain your friendship and changes can be achieved!
• Stay focused on your goals.
Do you know what you want to achieve in your life? Only if you know you can set goals and focus on them. Your goals should not be so high that they are not achievable making you feel disadvantaged for not achieving them. Because the truth is that no one can achieve unrealistic goals. If you want to lose weight, do not envy your girlfriend who is thin, nor start a diet with a single apple a day. It is certain that you will get tired and stop the diet very quickly and it will not be your girlfriend’s fault, but your unrealistic expectations. Start with exercise for 20 minutes a day, eat less prepared foods and envision yourself after a few months. You do things because you want to feel good, not because you feel bad about your life.
• Become your best self.
If you are constantly dealing with others, you are wasting time that you could dedicate to yourself. Aesop told us “What the fox does not reach, it hangs” and this applies to insecure people. Learn to trust others. Not all people are bad. Learn to single out the ones that suit you and hang out with them. Leave the others, do not worry about what they did, how they dressed, where they went and who they go out with. You are stealing valuable time from yourself and your self-improvement. When you feel good about yourself, it is easier to be good to the people around you. Confidence and self-esteem are the core of success and happiness.
It is better to appreciate and enjoy what we have today and to make plans for a better tomorrow. We are human beings and we have positive and negative emotions. It is good to use them to make our lives better, more focused and happier, both now and in the future!
