You do not need to be a scientist to understand that your relationship is not going well and it is inactive. And when a relationship breaks down, one does not have to feel obligated to live in a situation that does not bring him joy, but misery and sadness. Many people are afraid to divorce because they think they will be left alone. But it is much better not to be in a relationship than to be with someone you no longer want. But when do we know it’s time to pack our bags and leave?
When the following occur:
1. Your partner underestimates you.
Of course, we do not need to refer to unpleasant and obvious situations such as beatings, psychological and verbal violence. We take it for granted that we do not live in such a relationship. But many times, the devaluation can be done in an indirect and not so obvious way, such as irony, underestimation, abandonment at a difficult time. In such case you will do well to revisit your relationship and consider whether it is unhealthy for you.
2. Your partner does not respect you
Does he speak badly to you in front of people and show that he does not respect you? A good and healthy relationship is based on self-esteem, in principle, and respect in general. Mutual respect is a basic condition for staying in a relationship with someone else. If this does not exist, then it’s definitely time to break up.
3. Your partner is trying to control you
Is your partner trying to control how you behave, who your friends are, what you wear, how you spend your time? Do not accept it and leave as soon as you can, because it will only get worse over time. And it’s not just men who want to control their partners. Women can be just as controlling. And this is equally wrong.
4. You no longer feel attracted to your partners
If just the idea of being in bed with your partner makes you disgusted or you want to avoid hugging and kissing him, then it is clear that the spark has gone out. If you are not married with children, why do you stay in a relationship that has no attraction? Life is too short to live it unhappy and miserable. Is it time to move on to another level?
5. Avoid controversy.
If you start lying or hiding the truth to avoid conflict with your partners because you cannot deal with it, then you have certainly lost all communication with each other. The only thing you can do by staying in such a situation is to constantly invent excuses and this will result in your behavior changing, becoming more nervous and things getting worse.
6. You have different goals and values
Just because you fell in love with a man it doesn’t mean that you understood from the beginning who you were dealing with. If you do not share the same goals and the same values, you cannot maintain a long-term relationship. It is very difficult to build a life together if you do not agree what you want this life to be like. It will be a daily struggle full of conflicts.
Our partners need to be our friends in the first place. To be able to rely on them for our joys but also for our sorrows. And above all, we need to feel happy when we are with them. Everything else is a discount that will only keep us prisoners in a toxic state that will be perpetuated. But we only have one life and it is precious. Let us not waste it with the wrong partners because we feel insecure about finding new partners. It’s really a shame.
