Separation is not an easy task. It usually doesn’t matter who is to blame, it matters what we feel afterwards. A divorce or a relationship that ends is a situation that needs to be managed because it changes our whole lives. So what should we do?
1. First of all, let’s write a letter to our ex.
Let’s be honest and write from the heart exactly what we feel about them. Let’s tell them why we loved them and how we feel now that we’re divorced. If we feel like swearing at them, let’s do it; it’s good to experience the full range of our emotions. Then light a candle and burn the letter. This “ritual” will help us move toward emotional recovery.
2. To exchange our souvenirs.
If we are in a relationship for a long time, it is certain that we have some souvenirs from them. It is better to return them to their owners and ask for ours. If your exes don’t want to trade, put their items in a box and throw them away. Do not leave his / her toothbrush in your toilet; take out the watch that gave you and the T-shirt that bought you on your birthday; because each of these items will hold you back as you try to overcome the separation. …
3. If there are financial issues, make sure they are resolved as soon as possible.
If there was a joint account or common fund, it would be good to clear things up or go to the bank to close it. If you have loans or rents together, be sure to agree how they will be paid. This stage is probably the most difficult because economic factors play an important role in our lives now.
4. Agree with your ex not to meet for the next month.
This will help you start building different lives. You must not call, send a message, e-mail or arrange a meeting with them during this period. You may have to agree on which hangouts you will not go to again, so as not to fall on each other even accidentally.
Once you are able to stand on your own two feet again then you will be able to see them and develop a friendly relationship, if you and your ex-partners want it.
Ok, let’s agree that a breakup is unpleasant, but clinging to it is the worst thing, because it doesn’t let us move forward. And life is only ahead!
